Being 20 something and a college dropout is tough. But, I am here to tell you that it’s gonna be alright.
I am not trying to persuade you to drop out. I just want to tell my story about why I did and why it is okay to be a college dropout and still be a very successful happy person.
So, I had just made the decision to drop out of college after being miserable for two years.
Freshmen year I was really excited to go to college because it was something new and I was going to be on my own! I chose a college that I wasn’t to happy to be at because of a STUPID boy… that story is for a whole other post. After about two months of it I really didn’t think that it was for me. I was going home every weekend, not making very many friends, and just not feeling right about it. On top of not enjoying the social aspect of college I could not declare a major if my life depended on it. I started off as a nursing major which was not for me. I proceeded to change my major 3 other times in the business field and ended up as a marketing major.
Here are some reasons I changed my major:
- My parents told me I should go into something even though deep down I was not interested at all. If your parents want you to be a doctor but your passion is art, listen to your heart and do what feels right. Your parents just want the best life for you but they can’t make all of your decisions.
- My advisor sucked. My advisor didn’t help me with my decision what so ever. She couldn’t even remember my name. At the time I didn’t know this, but you can change your college advisor or counselor to someone who actually cares about your future.
- I was 18 years old. How can you expect an 18 year old to chose their life path when they don’t even know what they are having for dinner?!
Sophomore year came around and I was even more miserable… I hated the classes I was taking, hated how much money I was spending on tuition, and hated wasting my time on something that was not bringing me any joy. After a long and treacherous two semesters I had to make the executive decision to stay or to go. A lot of thought and emotion was put into the decision to drop.
A few reasons why I dropped out of college:
- I never had any time to actually find myself. I was never given the opportunity to really look into what kind of passions I had or what gave me the drive to wake up every morning.
- I did not want to be part of the vicious cycle. There is a cycle that my family and most of society is a part of. The cycle is graduate high school (which I think is very important), go straight to college *eye roll emoji*, get a prestigious job title, get married, have kids, and then teach your kids to do the same.
- I never had any fun. I was ALWAYS stressed out about getting homework done and getting good grades and keeping my GPA up and being the best student I could be. I was not able to let go of that stress and feel any type of relaxation!
- I was spending BUTT-LOADS of money. I was paying the university $20,000+ a year to be miserable 99% of the time.
The only reason I went to college was because I thought I had no other choice. Society has made us think that the only way to be successful in life is to graduate college. I completely disagree with that. There are so many successful people out there that did not graduate college. Kanye West, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates, Coco Chanel, Walt Disney, and many more. These people have amazing lives and living their dreams on top of that they are making millions.
I have not figured out what I am going to do with the rest of my life just yet. And that is okay. But, what I do know is that I am going to be very successful in what I do and extremely happy with my life. The day that I dropped out of college I had the biggest weight drop off my chest. I felt free. I felt like I could do anything. I felt like I had the world at my fingertips.
Dropping out of college is not for everyone. There are many people who love going to college and are very successful! More power to them! I just have a different path in life. I want to travel the world. I want to gain so many new experiences. I want to live life to the fullest. I want to find my passion and wake up every morning loving life.
So here I am. A college dropout facing the world ahead. I may not know where I’ll be in 5 or 10 years. I may not know what career path I want to go down. I may not know anything about my future yet. But something that I am sure of is that I am going to be happy with life. I am not going to have any regrets. I will be able to experience life to the fullest. For me it is so much more important to be happy and fulfilled than to please everyone.
I want to finish this off by saying follow your heart. Don’t do something if it won’t make you happy. Listen to yourself gut and radiate love.