Is social media ruining your life? 

Hi guys! 

So I always tend to write these posts right after something inspiring happens to me. That’s why they are not always consistent… BUT, I do want to get on a posting schedule. Maybe a once a week? Any suggestions on topics? 

Anyways, I was sitting at Starbucks on Mass Ave the other day. Mass Ave is very busy so there is always a ton of people getting their daily caffeine kick. As I was sitting there enjoying my day I look up at my surroundings and see everyone being super antisocial. We all were being brainwashed by our phones!


As you can see from the picture above that everyone has their face in their phone, so do I. Who knows what everyone else was looking at.  I was browsing social media instead of enjoying my surroundings. While sitting there I had to question myself as to why these tiny little pieces of metal are controlling our lives.

 I was carelessly scrolling through my Instagram feed. Comparing myself to the models with perfectly toned bodies and beautifully clear skin. Getting jealous of the girls who post pictures of themselves at the cutest coffee shop. Obsessing over how many likes I get and if I should take down my last selfie or not. Putting myself down because I’m not as skinny as that girl, my butt isn’t as big as this girl, and I’m not on a beautiful tropical island like her. 

I think we all do this in some way or another. 

The thing is our lives are not as glamorous as we portray them to be on Instagram. 

Taking a million selfies, choosing the one that you think will get the most likes, finding the perfect filter to make you look more tan, then contemplating the most clever caption to WOW all your followers. 

When you are with your friends and trying to take that effortless laughing pic. You all fake laugh for a few seconds then hurry up check the pic and if it’s not good enough you fake laugh some more. Then you send the same picture to all your friends in a group message and they post the same picture on their own Instagram with a different filter. 

#BFF #MyGirls #RideOrDie #GirlsNight 

We are all guilty of this! 

Sometimes we try way to hard to impress our followers. Trying to get the perfect picture that goes with your page theme. Most of the time we miss out on awesome moments in life because all our focus is on what people are doing on Snapchat and Twitter and Facebook.Millennials have grown up with social media and it’s pretty much a part of our DNA. We’ve been around since MySpace was cool and  all we were stressing about was which song you were gonna put on your profile. We scroll through Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Snapchat, YouTube, Pinterest… without putting any thought into how much time we are spending on social media. 


I’m not saying throw away your phone and live like the Amish. Lol. Just maybe we could set our phones down at dinner and just invest our time in the people you love. There will be a million photo ops throughout your life. So don’t miss some quality time for some stupid Instagram post. 

After my little Starbucks realization, I’ve come to the conclusion that I’m gonna forget about always taking pictures everywhere I go. I’m going to start leaving my phone in my purse and just take in the moment. You’ll never get that one moment back so maybe the pics can wait. 


The “Honeymoon Stage”

You know the first 2-3 months of a relationship where you are using the heart eye emoji every single text you send?

heart eye

You feel so in love that you can’t seem to stay away from each other. Then after about 6 months of being with each other all the lovey dovey affection seems to fade away. I’ve come to find it is a normal phase in relationships.

I was talking to one of my friends the other day. Her boyfriend brought her a coffee to work unexpectedly. I started to tell her how sweet that was and she replied with “yea we are still in the honeymoon stage”. She acted as if these small acts of kindness were
only going to last a short period of time. This conversation really sparked something inside of me. I started to ponder on the thought as to why we only have a honeymoon stage and not a life long honeymoon love.

Maybe it’s because we feel that we need to impress our significant other? Then once we start feeling more comfortable around them then we let go of trying. Or maybe its because we lost some interest in them and there is not a real spark there. Or maybe it is just the new norm and as couples we don’t feel that we need to try that hard anymore.

It is something that I have experienced in my past relationships and they’ve all gone down hill from there. (Thank gosh because they were D-bags)

I know that with time we do get closer as a couple and do feel more comfortable together. Comfort doesn’t mean it is okay to let go. We can’t let go of that fire inside. I believe that we should keep it going for the entirety of the relationship!

Keep surprising each other with gifts! You could spend as little at $5 and put a smile on their face.

Keep going out on date night! Even if it is just a Taco Bell date, it’s the thought that counts.

Keep spending time together! Making an effort to spend even a half hour talking about each others day can make a huge impact.

Maybe this is your sign to start making a little bit more of an effort in your relationship. Spice things up. Go places you’ve never gone. Do things you would never do. Try new foods. Do something together that is out of your comfort zone. You could potentially find something new that you both enjoy. Life is way to short to be stuck doing the same old same old. Why not try to live life to its fullest and happiest potential why we are all here?

I think that us couples should make the intention of never falling into the comfort trap. Continue to remind each other why you fell in love in the first place. Make each other feel the love until the end. I think I can speak for us all here. Wanting to feel those little butterflies in your stomach when we’re 80 years old.


I want a honeymoon love, not a honeymoon stage.